An article by July 27, 2018on
Lysander turns 18 today. He is a unique individual. Sure, we all consider each of our children remarkable – it is the privilege of parenthood. Still, from the earliest years, we’ve observed this person grow and develop an exceptional character, unconcerned about how others perceive him. Indeed, when anyone assigns “weird” to anyone or anything, he replies, “weirdness is awesomeness” in such a way that one might feel abashed to think otherwise.
Lysander is categorically kind, generous with love, and unwavering in resolve to make things right in this world. He bears the very image of God, and to know Lysander is to know God in a way that apart from making his acquaintance you would not. It is a privilege to mother him, be friends with him, discuss the importance of understanding the fourth dimension properly, to imagine and explore with him.
Lysander is 18 now. He can buy cigarettes and lotto tickets. He can live on his own and fight in a war. But what I think I’m most excited about is that he can vote. He is already making a beautiful impression on this world. Still, I believe he will make a bigger impact on it that even I can imagine.
Happy birthday, my dear son – imagine beautiful things, because you are well equipped to bring them to life!
“To be nobody-but-yourself — in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else — means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight,” E.E. Cummings
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