Episode 5: Touch

An article by on October 29, 2017

As Flesh and Blood beings, we feel through a variety of modes. I can touch something with my fingers and detect its texture, walk outside in the middle of Oklahoma’s August and feel the heat and moisture; someone tells me that my painting is profound and I feel a sense of accomplishment, or dismisses my opinion and I feel shame.

Often, we feel things without seeing that joy or pain for what it is. Rather, it is internalized and becomes part of the self, often in very physical manifestations.

In a book I read last year the author writes a brilliant insight about the protagonist’s mother:

“Her great and constant fear . . . was that if anyone came to know all of her, the real her, the true, deep essential Faye, they would not find enough stuff there to love. Hers was not a soul large enough for her to nourish another . . . .

Sometimes a crisis is not a crisis at all—just a new beginning. Because if a new beginning is really new, it will feel like a crisis. Any real change should make you feel at first afraid. If you’re not afraid of it, then it’s not real change.

Sometimes we are so wrapped up in our story that we don’t see how we are supporting characters in someone else’s.” The Nix, by, Nathan Hill.

Change can feel like a crisis. Instead, I might take a few moments to notice my physical reactions and see it rather as exciting, hopeful. Vulnerability reminds me of times someone exploited my trust so I fear someone’s interest in me, thinking, I’m unlovable, or I see that feeling as related to a past experience and recognize this person in front of me does actually love me.

St. Julian of Norwich suggests that the realm of history “is composed of the ‘little things’ that are held in existence by God’s love, and that can only be properly known and loved in relation to God. . . . The soul, rather than being an enclosed space, insulated from history, is radically ‘exteriorized’ by the indwelling of God.” The life of Jesus is God’s presence within, and we imitate Jesus outwardly, physically, through acts of compassion.

I love the Message translation of John 1:14­—“The Word became flesh and blood, and moved into the neighborhood. We saw the glory with our own eyes, the one-of-a-kind glory, like Parent, like Child, Generous inside and out, true from start to finish.”

We are meant to feel. We are made to distinguish texture, wetness, warmth, the touch of another.

The touch of someone close to you releases oxytocin, a very tangible hormone that initiates a feeling of well-being, even love. Applying physical touch methodically can be even more healing. Acupressure is based on the Chinese concept of “chi”, the life-flow that can be interrupted by illness, stressors, etc. and inhibit healthy circulation and metabolism. The terms are associated with Asian language and designations while easily understood as referring to the very physical reality of how stress and illness wreaks havoc on/in our bodies.

Today we will do a simple self-acupressure sequence to help alleviate headache. As with all of these exercises, pay attention to your breaths. Take slow, unrushed, breaths.

Find the space, the flesh between your thumb and forefinger on one hand and gently, yet firmly, apply pressure by grasping with the thumb and forefinger of the other hand. Hold for a count of 5 steady breaths in and out. 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 And switch hands. 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5

The 2nd point is on the outer tip of the eyebrow in front of the temple. Apply pressure on both sides and hold, 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5.

 

Throughout the day, pay attention to how things feel to the touch. Try one or more of these:

Walk barefoot. Pay attention to the ground underneath your feet. As you walk, notice how the sensations make your feet feel, are sensations sent up your legs?

As you dress, feel the texture of the sock, the embrace of the fabric around your hips—be thankful, loving (vs admonishment for expanded area)

 

As always, resources used in these episodes, along with the transcript can be found on my website: eirenicole.com

And today, may you walk at the pace of grace.

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Nicole Oliver Snyder’s expertise lies in the areas of leadership, gender issues, and mindfulness practice as it affects both. Leadership, particularly in an urban setting, requires community-relations skills, and an ability to clearly convey justice issues as they relate to felt, spiritual ones. Dr. Snyder is author of Leading Together: Mindfulness and the Gender Neutral Zone, and specializes in teaching mindfulness leadership development, formative spirituality, counseling, and Old Testament theology (emphasis on justice issues). She has a diverse background in international community-relations work combined with volunteer work in multi-ethnic communities, and with local institutions. She is an ordained Clergy; holds a BS in Human Development and Family Studies, w/Education Certificate, an MA-Counseling, MDiv Equiv., holds a Doctor of Ministry and Advanced Certification in Formative Spiritual Direction, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor (MI).

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